Forgiveness

The central theme of A Course in Miracles is that this world is not real. It is an illusion and a dream where we, the one Son of God thought ourselves to be exiled from God’s heaven. The ego is simply the idea that we have an individual identity that has separated itself from its Source. That idea is the ‘false collective’ us. There is just one ego appearing as many.

Forgiveness as taught by the great Masters like Jesus, undoes the ego. It accomplishes that by bringing people to a position of cause rather than effect.

The traditional kind of forgiveness which the world practices, keeps the separation intact by seeing others as having really done something. By seeing others as separate, it keeps the idea of you as separate being real in your unconscious mind. It also keeps you in a position of being at the mercy of the effects of the world. You are then a victim of the world you see.

Real forgiveness as taught by the Masters like Jesus and Buddha, would see everything as being one and connected thus there is not really anyone else who is separate from you. Therefore, to forgive another is to forgive yourself.

Forgiveness recognizes what you thought your brother did to you has not occurred. It does not pardon sins and make them real. It sees there was no sin. And in that view are all your sins forgiven. (Workbook, II. 1)

When we are feeling upset or not at peace with any people (including ourselves), situation or event, we can use the following true forgiveness thought process examples.

On yourself

I am immortal spirit.
This body is only an image
It has nothing to do with what I am.

Source: Your Immortal Reality by Gary Renard, Pg 78

On others

You are Spirit.
Whole and Innocent.
All is forgiven and released.

Source: Your Immortal Reality by Gary Renard, Pg 80

A longer version

You’re not really there. If I think you are guilty or the cause of the problem, and if I made you up, then the imagined guilt and fear must be in me. Since the separation from God never occurred, I forgive “both” of us for what we haven’t really done. Now there is only innocence, and I join with the Holy Spirit in peace.

Source: Disappearance of the Universe by Gary Renard, Pg 256

Yet another version

I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.
I made the decision myself, but I can also decide otherwise.
I want to decide otherwise, because I want to be at peace.
I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit will undo all the
consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him.
I choose to let Him, by allowing Him to decide for God for me.

Source: A Course in Miracles (T-5. VII.6)
See article on this version.

Notes:

  • The you and you’re can apply to any person, situation or event. It is all right to improvise while maintaining the basic ideas.
  • In addition, we could gently remind ourselves that “there is no world” and laugh it off.
  • In addition, we could gently remind ourselves that the person, situation or event is our own projection so that our unconscious guilt stays hidden and we could blame something outside ourselves. It also does not matter how bad or serious it appears to be, it all traces back to the unconscious guilt stemming from the illusory idea of separation from God.
  • Real forgiveness would see everything as being one and connected thus there is not really anyone else who is separate from you. Therefore, to forgive another is to forgive yourself.
  • Always be appropriate. Don’t be wierd and say it out to others. The forgiveness thought process is done in the mind.
  • It doesn’t matter when we do it (there is no time). Even if we forget (and we should forgive ourselves for that), we can always do it later or we will be provided with another opportunity eventually.
  • For deeper issues, forgiveness may need to be done repeatedly or even many times in order to undo them. Think of peeling the layers of an onion. Eventually, we get to it.
  • We may or may not experience the effects of forgiveness in form, but each forgiveness is a miracle nonetheless. The Holy Spirit will undo a bit of the ego and heal the unconscious guilt within our seemingly split mind. Remember it’s all done in the mind and we are now one step closer in realizing that we have never separated from God.
  • After forgiveness, you may want to ask the Holy Spirit for inspiration on whether to react or how to respond to the matter or person. It may take practice to learn to listen to the quiet voice of the Holy Spirit, but when it comes, it will usually feel like an inspired (and loving) thought which you feel could not have come from yourself. Sometimes, you may get an inspiration to respond but at other times, it is perhaps best to just walk away.

Three Steps of Forgiveness

Read Kenneth Wapnick’s take on the three steps of forgiveness.